amenity421 Posted January 27, 2022 Share Posted January 27, 2022 I went through a traumatic experience last night. My wife attempted to take her own life in our kitchen with a bread knife. I hurried our 4 year old into my other child (he's 11) and called 911. The paramedics came and took her to the hospital and she was released from there around midnight. She has been home since but we've barely spoken. I know she's hurting but with everything that's gone on in our relationship I'm not sure how much more i can take. I love my wife but she's made things incredibly difficult in the past two years. The world is a crazy place and we should take better care of each other. Sorry to be such a downer, I'll provide some levity.. I took my 11 year old to his mom's today and brought the 4 year old along. We hit the GameStop and then grabbed some lunch. He picked a PS4 game called Bee Simulator. We were playing it together tonight and the level had a stage with a band set up. Being a guitarist and gear junkie, naturally I checked out the gear. I love how accurate it was. There's a recrifier and a Line 6 Spider! Also, they even changed the headstock on the Gibson to avoid a lawsuit!see attachments Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverhead Posted January 27, 2022 Share Posted January 27, 2022 I’m sorry to hear of your situation. If you haven’t done so already, please seek local counselling. I think you would benefit greatly by talking to a qualified professional about your trauma. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaron__aardvark Posted January 30, 2022 Share Posted January 30, 2022 I agree with what silverhead said. That's not something you get over in a few days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amenity421 Posted January 30, 2022 Author Share Posted January 30, 2022 I've had a few days to reflect on this and I'm definitely seeking help. I hope my wife will do the same. So far, she's kind of avoiding the topic. But that can't last. I'm planning to drop pur son somewhere tomorrow and talk to her. My managers are fantastic and helped with a lot of resources and I'm to take as much time as I need. I appreciate the kind words of support. Especially over the internet. I posted here because i really didn't know what else to do at the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverhead Posted January 30, 2022 Share Posted January 30, 2022 I’m glad to hear that you’re getting help and support. Thanks for letting us know. I sincerely hope your journey of healing leads to a better place for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaron__aardvark Posted January 30, 2022 Share Posted January 30, 2022 Once again, I second what silverhead said. Perhaps you and your wife could be in counseling together? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pianoguyy Posted January 31, 2022 Share Posted January 31, 2022 I take the opposite approach. Tell the woman to use a sharp knife next time - to make sure she gets it done right. And as far as what I've been told about marriage - a husband and wife not speaking to each other sounds like heaven. Better than having her nag all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaron__aardvark Posted February 1, 2022 Share Posted February 1, 2022 pianoguyy, I think your reply is extremely rude and insensitive. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amenity421 Posted February 1, 2022 Author Share Posted February 1, 2022 I think we're past counseling. I asked her to go to inpatient treatment and she refused. I asked her to leave and give me space, she refused. I called her mother, she brought two crisis councilors, she remains in my home. No one seems to grasp that she cut herself bad enough to receive 26 stitches, in front of our four year old, to me, that makes her a danger to herself and others. I will likely need to remove her from the lease (if my landlord wants to do that), cut the utilities and wait for her to leave. I can't in good conscience keep my children In the same home with her. I feel for her and her sickness but I can't support her if she refuses to seek real help. I should clarify, we are not legally married nor does our state recognize common law marriage. I call her my wife since we've been together 10 years and have a child together. So legally, meh. This hurts a lot but i need her away for a while and I need to keep my kids in a routine. @pianoguyy Yikes man... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaron__aardvark Posted February 1, 2022 Share Posted February 1, 2022 Sorry to hear about your situation. I wish you the best. If you believe in God, I recommend praying about it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brazzy Posted February 2, 2022 Share Posted February 2, 2022 That’s a tough situation man. I hope it works out for everyone involved. I don’t have any solid advice cause the only experience I have is a relationship I thought was serious with a woman who was bipolar and lucky for me I dodged a knife to my head while sleeping on the floor not to mention a few other weird things leading up to that. We always hope we know the person we love but sometimes no matter what we do we don’t. Best Wishes to and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brazzy Posted February 7, 2022 Share Posted February 7, 2022 Following up, how are you doing in this situation OP? I hope ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samloki Posted May 25, 2022 Share Posted May 25, 2022 I deeply regret what happened to you, but why would your wife do this? I think she needs treatment, and I mean psychological, first to figure out the origin of the matter, and then to prescribe the right medicine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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